Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Love, His Holiness and My Home in the Pew

The Dalai Lama is coming to Dallas this week.

For as long as I can remember I’ve wished for this visit. I’ve imagined this visit, dreamed and day-dreamed about it. The Fourteenth Dalai Lama, universal sage of wisdom, model of compassion, a purveyor of lovingkindness, a Teacher comes to Dallas. 

And what does this mean, to feel this way, as a cradle-Episcopalian from a long-line of Episcopalians, all rocked in the same wooden cradle? I already have a teacher, three to be exact, Father, Son and Holy Spirit. But for me, curiosity led me to more: more points of view, more knowledge, access to something beyond the liturgy I memorized in the fragrant pews of my childhood.

As the director of an art museum presenting works from Asia: Japan to South Asia and a multitude of diverse belief systems, my work also led me to more. I have encountered Buddhism in the astonishing process of the construction of a sand mandala. I have encountered Hinduism watching a priest bathe a deity in Irving, Texas. I’ve marveled at the beauty of a Sikh profile, in turban, and I’ve chanted in unison at the Hare Krishna Temple in East Dallas. I’ve tried on these experiences—each with a new awe, an open curiosity and an intentional sense of wonder. And every Sunday, I return to Saint Matthew’s Cathedral Church to teach Sunday School, to recite psalms, and prayers in the pews, and to sing my grandmother’s favorite hymns, pitch-matching the choir.

I am a Christian. I believe in a Jesus who, like Buddha did 530 years earlier, walked this earth with one message: love. Love each other, love your enemies, love your neighbor as you love yourself. And today, a Dalai Lama walks, with the spirited step of a three year old. He walks in love. I think Jesus would have loved the Dalai Lama: for his fearless walk in truth and love, for his conviction to live each day compassionately for others. He gives of himself in the same way Christ teaches Christians to live. Love your neighbor. Be compassionate. Be peaceful. Maybe it's that simple. 

Buddhism may be better described as a practice, a way of being to our practice and discipline-starved 21st century minds. The doctrine of praying, confessing, absolving, of “command”ments and all of the rigors of religion as we know it may be better entered through a gentler course of practice including a quieter space like meditation. For me, the teachings of Buddhism and the wisdom of the Dalai Lama offer a non-threatening curriculum of lovingkindess. This curriculum has inspired new ways of being in my life. These teachings have impacted how we are together at our office as colleagues. They have bolstered my work as a leader in the arts community and in my personal life as a mother and wife. I have encountered new practices of writing, walking, praying and studying nature all before 7 am. I am exploring my faith through the teachings of many faiths and with each journey I return home to my church, stronger in who I am and who I want to be in this very short moment here on earth.

The Dalai Lama comes to Dallas this week.  I am preparing, pouring over his words, his videos and his teachings. I was humbled by his appearance at Glastonbury at a music festival with Patty Smith just this past weekend. The YouTube Video captures his first moments on stage, eyes bright and animated. He is joyful, every part of his being, like a small boy seeing a new world for the first time. He walks ahead of himself, as if he just can’t wait to enter the next moment in time. He reaches out for a hand to steady him, and a hand is ever present. And he knows it. He is humble in his needs and in his humanness. He walks over and greets every person on stage with the deepest respect. He laughs at jokes we won’t know. He stands in the center and bows deeply to the crowd. Here is this man, revered the world over, standing with total honor and respect for the audience. He is in as much awe of the thousands in the crowd as they are of him. He appears to create a personal experience, a personal connection with everyone there.

And finally, after brimming with joy at the rounds of “Happy Birthday to you”, he takes the familiar microphone, the spirited crowd falls silent, and in just three minutes, doles out a bounty of loving lessons for the human spirit. He is the embodiment of lovingkindess. All of this is captured and experienced in my moment in Youtube on the tiny screen of my iphone6. It’s a different world.

I believe I am a keen observer of the world—and I can say with faith there is so much love to be seen in the world. Everyday. You just have to look for it. I call them Little Alleluias. I find little alleluias in airports, on the steps of a church, in a museum gallery. The Dalai Lama believes this, too. He asks us to be observers of the world around us, to find ways to give love and compassion to the beings we know, and those we don’t know. And as I think about how, the more you look, the you see. Just as suggested by our teachers, the more the love we see and share, the more love there is in the world.


So, Love is my teacher. 

And it will flow through me as I learn and as I teach others. I will seek the wisdom of my religious beliefs, I will pray to my God with more wholeness in my heart, and I will see the light brighter in others as they pursue their own journeys in the world. For me today begins an eight-day journey with the Dalai Lama: he arrives this afternoon in Texas and I will follow his eightieth birthday celebrations to Irvine, California where he will speak on compassion, the environment and lovingkindness. I will write my learning and my reflections, my views on love and religion and all that happens in between. Love is my teacher, my pen and the blank page, the sunrise at the glorious pivot of night to day as if to say, knowledge is coming: listen. 

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

The thing I didn't see at first

Green moth on the window
It looks like a leaf.
But on second glance you know that it’s not
Perfect symmetry
The unexpected flutter of a wing
Startles.
A supernatural shape
How long will it be?
Before it is something else.
Just a part of
The memory
Of this mysterious morning.

Monday, June 1, 2015

Gift

This evening at the Buddhist Blessing and Wedding for Dear Family Friends Melissa Ann and Daniel Medrano I was honored with the opportunity to welcome everyone to Crow Collection of Asian Art.
I gave them this poem: 
Gift
The skies had something important to say
Nature in her wildest way blessed us on this
Wedding day.
Each drop of water is a gift
We will save and remember
Like the life before Daniel and the life before Melissa.
Today is a Changing:
A transformation into something new.
Their lives are a gift
A gift to these families who brought them up into
This bright and beautiful, wild and precious world. 
You are a gift, today in this museum
Here for the marriage of two very special people.
Gifts surround us.
Little Alleluias everywhere.
From the teachers we have known
And those we hope to see again.
Ganesha without obstacle;
Vishnu, preserver and protector;
Buddha, giver of benevolence and wisdom;
Filling all beings with joys and peace.
As the Sun, a bright glorious sun, follows the rain.
And fills us with something new.
Bright as these sunflowers:
A reminder of all that is possible
In Love. 
Be a gift to each other,
With every word
Every glance
And dream.
Today is yours.
And thank you for making today
Ours, too. 
5.30.2015
Daniel + Melissa
Love.

Monday, May 4, 2015

From my remarks at the Closing Ceremony of the Sand Mandala from the Mystical Arts of Tibet, May 3, 2015

Earlier this week as we viewed the White Tara Mandala constructed by the monks of the Drepung Loseling Monastery, my friend Ambassador Jorge Lozoya stood at the edge of the sand mandala in-process and exclaimed with warm enthusiasm, 

“This is it! This is Everything. A man lives 70 or 90 years and then is it over. This is marvelous.”

A marvel indeed. 

In Nepal one week ago a series of devastating earthquakes shattered centuries of architecture and sacred historical sites. It was a dismantling of a mandala of culture. Temples became sand and were returned back to the dust of a region’s beginnings. 

Not far away on the tallest mountain in the world a group of explorers from The Google Adventure team were camped at one of Everest’s base camps. The earthquake sent an avalanche through the area and young man named Dan Fredinburg was caught in its path. 

Dan, a Privacy Director for the Google’s Project X Team is responsible for some of the company’s move forward-thinking initiatives including Google glass and driverless cars. He formed the Google Adventure team and mapped the mountain using Google’s 360 tools: he was our lens, our explorer mapping the places we can’t easily get to. 

These intrepid explorers are peering over the edge of the earth and I just wonder, what is a life like that like? The following passages are from the first 22 days of Dan’s Everest Adventure. 

2015 Everest Expedition fully underway. Gear is ready. I am ready. Now spending some time thinking about how this year's climb can be as impactful as possible! ‪#‎Everest

Kathmandu! No one here is focused on the destination bc the journey is complicated enough... ‪#‎brickslikefreethrows ‪#‎nepal


Quick Puja ceremony in Kathmandu to make sure all the energies are aligned. Our Nepalese crew is jacked and can't wait to get started. ‪#‎Puja ‪#‎Nepal

Day 4: Lukla. The most dangerous airport in the world (due to lack of sufficient runway). I'm 5-0 at this airport. Keep the streak going! ‪#‎Lukla ‪#‎airport

Day 4: The new Kathmandu domestic airport has strong reflection pool game. Some are clearly electrified... ‪#‎Kathmandu

Day 5: It takes me 4 days to walk to the mountain town of Pangboche written on the box he's hauling there.This guy better hope the recipient doesn't return to sender. ‪#‎porter ‪#‎Everest

Day 5: Our flight in was delayed so we stick around Lukla for the views. ‪#‎Everest


Day 6: Namche Bazaar is the last trading post on the route to Everest Basecamp. ‪#‎Namche ‪#‎everest ‪#‎djiphantom

Day 6: The Hillary suspension bridge lets us cross high above the Khumbu valley floor. ‪#‎Everest ‪#‎Khumbu

Day 8: Road to Basecamp. Pasang Sherpa from Ward 4 is one of my favorite characters. He's been building a rock road from Namche to EBC for 53 years to help protect travelers. ‪#‎Everest ‪#‎Sherpa ‪#‎hero


Day 9: Lama Geshe gave me a piece of string, a scarf, and a postcard for luck. Pem Chhiri, our climbing Sirdar, and I are studious. ‪#‎everest2015 ‪#‎lamageshe

Day 9: Push up into the valley. On our way to visit Lama Geshe to get blessed for our journey. ‪#‎everest

Day 9: Back on the old yak farm to wrangle up some help to carry gear. ‪#‎yak ‪#‎everest2015 ‪#‎yakcity

Day 11: “Tonight you have learned the final and greatest truth of the ninja: the ultimate mastering comes not from the body, but from the mind. Together, there is nothing our minds cannot accomplish. Help each other draw upon one another, and always remember the power that binds you.” - Master Splinter... and @gammanine ‪#‎Everest2015 ‪#‎ChungKhung

Day 12: The snow falls, each flake in its appropriate place. ‪#‎Everest2015


Day 13: Sucra Sherpa, or as I call him, Sugar, getting really close for the photo, or warmth, whatever. ‪#‎5530m

Day 13: Always a long line of yaks at the toilet under Ama Dablam. Yak city bitch, yak yak city... ‪#‎amadablam ‪#‎yakcity ‪#‎Everest2015

Day 14: Stopped by the Italian Research Center today. Not surprised to see the yaks out front chowing on spaghetti. ‪#‎yakcity ‪#‎Everest2015 ‪#‎Italian

Day 15: Temp in tent is -12C tonight. Temp in tent during day spiked to +46C! This is really confusing... ‪#‎Everest2015


Day 16: Unseasonal snow storm in the night buries our tents. Dig out required in the morning. ‪#‎Everest2015 ‪#‎Snow

Day 16: Dear @urbangaucho, thanks for sending mental images of your triceps and calves. I shared your photos with my Sherpa. He laughed and told me to ask, "do you even lift yaks, bro?" ‪#‎bodybyzabes ‪#‎Everest2015

Day 18: Our camp, Jagged Globe, is positioned right next to the entrance to the icefall and with a view over Khumbu glacier and the valley below. ‪#‎Everest2015 ‪#‎JaggedGlobe


Day 19: The ceremony calls for rice and flour to be slapped on our faces to grant us the appearance and wisdom of age (is that right?) and Lama Dawa gives me a sweet black medallion. ‪#‎Everest2015 ‪#‎puja

Day 19: After snow delays, our Puja ceremony is finally underway. We piled up our gear on the alter to have it blessed. Lama Dawa Rita, a Sherpa from our Gurka team, asks the Goddess Everest for permission for our team to step through the ice fall soon. ‪#‎Everest2015 ‪#‎puja


Day 19: Jagged Globe Sherpa team. JG bought them all top of the line jackets to wear this year. Guys in green work Basecamp. Guys in blue climb with us. And Pem, in the black best, is the boss and does it all. ‪#‎JaggedGlobe ‪#‎Everest2015

Day 19: We're cleared for launch. Now we help the Sherpa celebrate this auspicious day and the next stages of our expedition. ‪#‎Everest2015

Day 20: Saving ice on top of Kala Patthar. Everest Basecamp in the background is a climate change hotspot. ‪#‎Savetheice

Day 22: Ice training with @micbattelli means frequent stops for morning cappuccino, regardless of danger. ‪#‎Everest2015

After reading these entries I exclaimed to a friend, “I want to live like Dan.”  I am learning through his memorial page, others do, too. 

Wayne Price was with Dan last year on the trek to Everest Base Camp, and filmed Dan at the orphanage. From Wayne’s Facebook Page: 

"What's on your mind, Facebook asks, as I struggle along with you to find the words to describe the love and loss I have been feeling the past 48 hours. Robert Frost said, "A poem...begins as a lump in the throat, a sense of wrong, a homesickness, a lovesickness. It is a reaching-out toward expression; an effort to find fulfillment. A complete poem is one where an emotion finds the thought and the thought finds the words."
Dan Fredinburg was, and will always be, a complete poem. In the short time our eyes played ping pong on this Earth, I bore witness to the rarest of rare, a human so aware that his life was a work in progress, that he actively sought every one and every experience possible in order to... find the words.
A little over a year ago, during a spontaneous dinner on a Tuesday night in San Francisco, I looked across the table at my friend who was hauling down his second plate of food, and asked him, "Aren't you going to Everest, like, in a few days?" He swallowed, took another bite, reached for my plate, took a bite and barely having swallowed this one, said, "Wanna come?"
This is for you, Dan. I wrote it while sitting on a plane, not fighting back tears, flying back home to be with our friends. If it sucks, I'm sure I'll hear you laughing at me. Just know while you laugh that I'm working on that last thing you asked of me before leaving, for the kids we met, for Nepal.

AND...
I met a magic man 
Who with one glance 
Convinced me to take a chance
with my own sanity.
An invitation to the next destination
Of my own humanity. 
His name was Dan,
Which mixed up spells and...
I hopped a flight through the night 
And landed back in time
Where a dime could get you fed 
Or a bed. 
Where earth and sky both were red.
Barely time to think
Decided on a blink 
To tame a mountain.
What the hell am I doing here
at the end of the road?
At the end of the year it might make sense. 
Now breathing is my best defense
As I ascend...
I look over to my friend 
Who hides behind a bandana and yellow specs. 
I can feel him smile 
Like a child.
This is mountain,
We've been told. 
This is mountain,
We've been sold.
The swirling rush of wind and river
Winding 
Finding peace, despite a shiver
A promise, delivered
On day one.
Yet the man's duty isn't done 
Until he peaks. 
Until he finds what he seeks
Atop the mountain.
Where the only place to look is down
Upon the very ground we walk now
And...
My feet complete their rounds
Each step, tiny sounds 
From mighty hounds 
Whisper "Stop! Turn around!"
The voices
The choices 
The mountain compounds.
As we arrive, 
Alive
Together 
No matter the weather,
Or distant the pain.
Not a hug or a drug
That can cure the insane.
The mountain still looms 
As I bid adieu 
For I've come and I've done
What I needed to do
But you, magic man
With the peak in your eyes. 
As you chase the horizon
Making truth out of lies. 
Crossing over a rainbow
Sliding into the gold
Living life like a story
That has to be told.
That hasn't an ending 
But rather, two 
You tame the mountain,
Or the mountain tames you"

Wayne Price


Let the messages of Dan’s life also be his mandala, the sands of his life, the energy of his words and his work continues here with us in this room today. Take the lessons of this White Tara mandala with you and spend some time thinking how this life, this climb can be as impactful as possible. 

Saturday, April 18, 2015

Life By the Bell

I live by the bells
Heart leaps at the sound
Time in music
And as old as time

I live by the bells
Your cathedral or mine?
A Grandfather’s clock
It was hallway time

I live by the bells
Are we early or late?
A rhythm of loveliness
A mindful state

I live by the bells
From campus to now
The bell tower calls us
For what time will allow

I live by the bells
Better than watch
The bells take me skyward
Aloft at ear’s touch

I live by the bells
Technology need not change
Neighborhood’s watchman

Calls for day to arrange

Monday, April 13, 2015

Today



Today
Someone died
Someone lost a job
Someone had a wreck
Or popped two tires
Someone found out they have cancer
Or learned they are pregnant
Heard a heartbeat
Held their baby for the first time
Today someone had surgery
Today someone buried a loved one
Today was their day
And today is yours
A nurse wrote four numbers: the time of death
And we ate ice cream
Make it count.
Make every moment
A conscious moment
At the intersection
Of night and of day.

On Well Being in the Art Museum



Welcome to the place for pause, The Crow Collection of Asian Art. You can be quiet here. Just step inside off of the street and soak in a placid moment far from the stress of work and life. Here you can just be. You can be with a work of art, gazing absent of time into the intricacies of a miniature mountain made of jade in the Qing Dynasty. You can sit with a Japanese Screen of the Edo Period and contemplate your place in the world and your relationship with nature. There are no walls in this museum. Horizons take us to new landscapes. You can feel the change after just a few minutes. You are calmer. More relaxed. The rooms are dark, pensive with lights illuminating your path and revealing your next turn. This is an oasis far from the tug of technology.
You are welcomed here, welcomed to be calm, quiet and curious. 

You are welcomed to belong. We believe you can belong to wellbeing. In Asia, nature and art cannot be separated. By being in these spaces with works of art depicting the natural world, you are taking care of your being. You can find new practices like centering your breath, meditation and yoga. You can soak in not twenty objects but maybe only three. Works of art from Asia are meant to be contemplative. Art for the mind.


We know that spending slow time with art has wonderful benefits to the body: decreased blood pressure, reduced cortisol, lower heart rate. These moments with works of art, practiced with intention and pattern can reduce, even reverse the damaging effects of prolonged stress. Museums offer this kinder, gentler medicine.


Along with churches, we may be one of the few quiet (and free) spaces left in the world for personal wellbeing retreats. We offer access to tranquility and a place to think, to imagine a future where you know how to take care of yourself, others and the environment. We offer growth moments and the freedom to be curious and learn about time-tested traditions of wellness throughout Asia. And looking at art is the portal to them. Be well with us.